Wrestling Beast's blog

There is nothing more obnoxious than, when you are in a chat room, getting a private message from someone you have never messaged before and reads "im so horny tonight", "dude ya wanna cockfight", "j/o on cam?" or "MAN AM I GONNA MAKE YOU MY BITCH". (Note the absolute lack of capitalization, punctuation, proper language, etc.) First of all, I am tempted to reply, "What on my profile thinks that I am going to respond favorably? Please let me know so I can take it down immediately!" Usually I just ignore the person. One of these days, I will lose my patience and respond with some very unfriendly language. Or I may share a link to this blog post.

It is a sad commentary on our shared interests when someone should expect to receive this from a total stranger. Consider this analogy : You are hanging out in gay or fetish bar. How likely is it that a total stranger is going to come up to you and the first thing out of his mouth is "You do anal?" or "You like paddling?" While that kind of greeting may be appropriate in a porno or fetish video, it rarely, if ever works in real life. The person saying that usually would wise up after a few dirty looks or "buzz off"s.

I understand that some people like to chat dirty and go into the chat rooms on these sites to do that. I have no problem with that. What I have a problem with is the assumption that everybody else wants to chat dirty as well.

But someone may remember my prior blog entry where I discuss the issues surrounding nude wrestling. That obviously must mean that its no holds barred in chat with me, right? Well, I never said that I wrestled nude in that post or, even if I did, that I would wrestle nude with just anybody. An annoying person is unlikely to get the time of day from me, never mind an invitation to meet. It is wrong to assume that being open to nude wrestling means that crotch grabs, mutual masturbation, frottage or oral sex is okay. Those kind of assumptions can turn an otherwise fine match into an incident of {removed} .

When I private message somebody for the first time or the tenth time, I usually start out with "Hi, how are you?". Other appropriate greetings include "I loved your profile", "Do you want to wrestle sometime?", "Great photos", "I dig your blog", "You seem like my kind of opponent". Our conversations do not have to rise to the level in My Dinner with Andre', but it is not too much to ask to keep conversations out of the gutter until the other person indicates that he is willing to go there.

While there are non-sexual stakes, I assume that when someone mentions stakes, they assume some kind of sexual activity is in play. Don't ask a person unless they have indicated they are open to the erotic. And I am not going to view your cam just so you can show me that you can and are masturbating. Its safe to assume that if you have found your way here, you have mastered that particular activity.

Oh, some people like to pretend that their Caps Lock key is stuck permanently on when they chat. This is the Internet equivalent of shouting at somebody. I know people to this to show how intense they are or to intimidate. It just looks sad and its really annoying, so stop already.