ChrisWrestling's blog
Sending nudes
While I predict that this blog will be met with heavy criticism I think this is important to say.
In the era of Grindr and Sniffies the gay world seems to have become obsessed with the sharing of photos of dicks and buttholes as if those really are the only things that matter anymore. While I get it to a point on those platforms meetfighters and globalfight and whatever other platforms are out there for fighters, the people who are on these sites are generally looking for niche play. I, for one, am a legit grappler and rarely incorporate sexual play in my meetups because wrestling is about wrestling for me. I just spent a week in SF wrestling nearly every day and I would finish rough sessions high and satisfied and my depression has been nearly non-existent in the days following those matches. One of them did have crotch smothering and was semi-sexual but I never even saw the other guy's dick or butthole. I can't be alone on this but really, on this platform, those photos are irrelevant to me. As a spandex fetishist I would much rather see a bulge than a naked cock 9 times out of 10.
The second point I want to make on this, which is arguably more important, is that there is the issue of consent here as well. You don't go up to random people and flash your junk at them in the mall, so why do it here? Would it be so difficult to ask someone IF they want to see your bits before you send them? I'm not a prude by any stretch, I actually may be kinkier than most of y'all, but in the kink community consent is highly emphasized. For me, if I want that kind of play with you I will let you know, there will be enthusiastic consent which is what you want to look for. This is not an old school sentiment, the dialogue on consent has come more into focus in the Me Too era. Flashing your junk at anyone and everyone you might be a little interested in speaks to how little you value your other traits which I am far more interested in. It's disrespectful to those you send your nudes and it can be seen as sexual harassment. If you want to know who is the conservative dinosaur with the dated sensitivities, it's those who don't understand or respect other's ability to say no, I don't want to see that yet.
squeeze002 (0)
10/03/2024 10:36 PMI have to agree I don't need to see someone's dick or their ass. Now legs on the other hand I want to see those and they rarely share pictures of their legs which is a disappointment. But that's only because I love feeling a man's thighs harden and tighten as they squeeze my neck really really tight. I've had the wonderful opportunity of one's having Chris's legs around my neck. That was many years ago.
Juggernaut (0)
10/04/2024 12:58 AMFirst, thanks Chris for posting this. Its something that should have been brought up and addressed long ago, and has gone on unopposed for far too long. Once things get to a certain degree without being challenged, they tend to become the norm.
Second, never assume that because someone participates in an activity or pastime, that they all share the exact same preferences. Nothing could be further from the truth. Unless you're absolutely sure of someone's acceptance, always ask first. To state it simply, never share unsolicited intimate photos to someone you don't know. Nowadays, people have become far to casual with this type of behavior and it needs to stop.
BamaJDon41 (10 )
10/04/2024 1:27 AMI've seen similar blogs on this subject 3 or 4 times within the last 5 years. If anyone does object to blogs on this subject they rarely comment.
FrancisBacon2023 (2)
10/04/2024 6:26 AMI dunno, there seems to be at least two groups on this website. There is one group who like a bit of erotic alongside the wrestling & another who absolutely don't. I guess the more we're open on our profiles the happier we'll be? Hopefully.
ChrisWrestling (43 )
10/04/2024 6:34 AM(In reply to this)
Point is, when in doubt, ask for consent first
FrancisBacon2023 (2)
10/04/2024 6:37 AM(In reply to this)
Yeah I agree.
dabbler1973 (17)
10/04/2024 7:58 AMI'm not actually interested in cocks/arses either... abs, stomach, chest ... a nice back, forearms, sexy hands, a strong muscled neck/shoulders, calves ... are all much much sexier and more appealing than anything else. But this group .. this site is for everyone and we all have wildly different likes/dislikes.... it would be boring if we were all the same now ... some guys natural knee jerk wiring is to show their junk and stretch their holes wide.... just because it is a turn off for a lot of guys, I'd guess it's what a lot of guys expect.
So it's about accepting the differences and embracing that some folk have a different default setting than we do ... all we have to say is "not interested in that thanks" ....
This is ultimately and predominantly a site for guys & gals who are sexually aroused by fighting. . in various forms.
I also get fed up seeing guys moaning about all the gutpunchers... "that's not fighting .... that's not wrestling ..." bla bla bla .... It's merely another branch of all this crazy shit ....
I'm glad you know your mind and glad that mostly non erotic wrestling is what helps your depression... so keep doing it .. and you can discuss these need, wants and wishes during your pre-match chit chat so when you meet, you both know where you stand.
ChrisWrestling (43 )
10/04/2024 9:00 AM(In reply to this)
I mean the issue is really just people sending without asking first. It'd be like someone using abusive language/trash talk mid match or throwing punches that weren't negotiated, you don't wait for someone to tell you no, you look for enthusiastic consent before doing.
JW130kgYYC (4 )
10/04/2024 9:15 AMThis is 100% spot on, Chris. You nailed it perfectly when you spoke of consent & why it matters. The layer of anonymity provided here is good, but it can easily be abused. All must use caution.
edscissors (31 )
10/04/2024 2:04 PMI'm always interested to read what you write, ChrisWrestling, because you write such good sense. Thank you.
Juggernaut (0)
10/07/2024 3:10 AMToo bad they just switched to posting nudes to the chat rooms so they get viewed by members that us it regardless. Whatever content is restricted on the home page is perfectly viewable there in all its glory. Clever strategy around the system limitations, don't you think?