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I think your last two sentences say it best: "I joined this site to fullfill my gut punch fetish.
It didn't take an army , only a few cool people."

If a person's fighting interest has a sexual component, the recommendations feature - as well as the confirmed opponents feature - are particularly helpful. They diminish potential risk in meeting up with strangers for acts that require significant trust, safety, and maybe discretion.

Like you, I personally would rather find a small number of reliable opponents that I know are a mutual good fit. But if I was purely looking exclusively for bodies to wrestle with for pure sport or to dramatically improve my skill, I'd probably find recommendations or confirmed opponent features to be less important.

Nice blog post!

Thanks Osakarob.
Agreed, recomendations serve a broader perpose if you are looking for pure sport and no errotica.

Thanks for this blog. You make some very good points about what I think is a complicated issue.

First, I will have to admit to you that I am one of those people who has fallen into the habit of looking at the "number" of recommendations someone has here and making a snap judgement about them. Your comments have me rethinking that. I dont have a huge number myself, and I do find myself having the attitude that, "I need to get my number higher to boost my credibility". Maybe that's an ego thing? I don't know.
But my growing tendency towards these snap judgements about others is not totally unfounded and rests on some personal experience. I have, on a number of occasions, spent a good deal of my time chatting with someone who has been on the site for some years, and had zero or one match listed. They would lead me on with assurances that they wanted a real match and would spend time with me setting up the details of time and place that works for both of us. Everyone here know that that can sometimes be difficult and can take a while to coordinate. But then, as we got down to the wire, and the match was imminent, there was always a reason to back out. Sometimes perfectly reasonable, sometimes seemingly irrational. So, I came to learn that on this site there are guys who really dont want to wrestle or fight, but enjoy fantasizing about it. Or perhaps they do want to, but are just too paranoid to follow through.
I have therefore fallen into the habit of not pursuing a match with someone who had been here a while and has no matches listed. Obviously, in your case, my judgement would be in error. I'm not sure that there's an easy fix for this, but I do really appreciate having heard your perspective.

Exactly. Not to be hypocritical but I admit I too scutinize those who have been on here for years and haven't had at least one match, but given what I stated above , I try to put myself in their place and acknowledge the social challenges of setting up an agressive match when you have a bit of a jobber personality so to speak.
Don't misunderstand that. Im a quite storm but will fight you.lol. It goes back to fullfilling what you want.
I have had so much fun with the few that iv had a session with that I don't care if no one else even checks my profile out anymore.... Just jokeing .

FerrellFighter's reply is probably one of the smartest comments I have ever read on this subject. Good job sharing true, honest, and personal feelings on something we all wonder about on this site.

Well thought and written😊

Thank you 👌