Got Stood Up For The First Time

Things do happen that’s for sure but no communication is not cool. I had a plan to meet up a guy that was traveling in my town. At the last minute he decided to get a third guy involved that I was kind of leery about and didn’t want any part of. I spoke to this guy that was in my town before I just had a not a good feeling you know the feeling so I never met up with him then always sudden he is a part of our three man wrestling group.

Happens to me often, it's there loss my friend. Stay optimistic brother

I'd never stand you up, buddy! Missed you at Fest this year!

Yes, it has happened to me in (getting stuck with hotel bills) in Philadelphia more than once and Boston once. Sometimes it’s a guy you’ve met and has been around. No excuse for bad manners. We all know life intervenes. Ghosting, or blocking or deleting membership. That last one is somewhat common especially with new guys. The idea of wrestling or fighting is exciting, but when the rubber hits the road to commit they get cold feet or shriveled …. My general rule of thumb now is not to contact new guys for a few weeks to see if they stick. If they reach out fine, but the melt factor is high there too.

Finally somebody gets it. We're all destined to go through disappointment now and again, but what determine your character is what you get out of it. Always include what you've learned from the experience. Otherwise, you're destined to repeat the same mistake again, and again.

I learned to be more careful planning meets with someone from another country. I feel I'm more likely to meet with someone in New York, that Canada.

It's more about his personality than which country he's from. I have my best gutpunching sessions with foreigners.

I learned to meet guys who actually are very much into gutpunching, than random guys who want to try gutpunching. They don't last long, or quit when I ask them to punch harder.

There are never any guarantees. I mean you can make all the plans you want and even have the best of intentions and things still not workout.

But in my experience with all things (not just this topic) communication is the key. The more you communicate (about likes, dislikes, preferences, etc.), the less likely someone will be to back out, and hopefully not at the last minute.

Everyone has a right to change their mind. But as long as they get the other person advanced notice before they've made any investments, there's no hard feelings. Just say you've changed your mind. But say it early on.

that is soo f'd up. that happened to me kinda but luckily I did not go to another city just to wrestle. I had other plans too, I hate f'n flakes, sorry dude.

100% agree... Dominic

So we had been planning this meet since January and today was the day to meet. I paid for the hotel reservations for two nights. We'll, I went to check our messages and saw that he was no longer a member. And when I got a response from the number he gave me they said wrong number...

I told him things come up that are out of our control and I wouldn't be upset if he couldn't make it. However I am disappointed of the nature to which he couldn't make it by flat out deleting his whole membership to avoid having to say anything to me.

So now I've got a hotel for two nights by myself and it's non-refundable -_-

I can't even give him a negative recommendation and so he doesn't pull this on someone else.

Has anyone else had this happen?

that is soo f'd up. that happened to me kinda but luckily I did not go to another city just to wrestle. I had other plans too, I hate f'n flakes, sorry dude.

Had a guy ghost me yesterday - messaged him twice over the weekend to confirm, but no response. Didn't mind so much because I'd already planned to stay until today anyway and I fortunately had an "alternate" lined up, but it was annoying.

On the flip side, my match on Sunday accused ME of standing him up - when he showed up half an hour early and left after 4 minutes when I missed his messages.

Some people are just impatient and have no concept of "I'm driving, and can't respond now."

But to leave after only 4 minutes is next level...

Well, to be fair, he was the one driving. I was at my hotel, in an area in my room where I don't generally bring my phone.....