Be 100% clear with your opponent what rules/limits you want to fight and do not agree to or do anything you are not comfortable with.
99% of guys on MF are decent people. If you are not happy during a meet say STOP and tell your opponent what you are unhappy about. If things don't improve, end the meet.
Remember, most guys have had past opponents so check out the recommendations and if it makes you feel more secure, ask your prospective opponents' past opponents for their honest opinion on the guy before you meet. If it's practicable you could meet for a coffee / drink in order to set up the 'fight date' which would give you a feel for the guy.
The most important thing is to be safe and have a good time!
So, fo most of us a baseline rule is "no injuries". If someone's uncomfortable with that, avoid them. In most martial arts there is the concept of the "tap" It is your way of signaling that you submit and want the hold released – BEFORE injury. I am constantly surprise by videos here where the aggressor ignores a tap for a while. bd form, they go on my [shit] list.
In reality most of us want the same thing. Our ability and willingness to take risk and pressure/pain varies, and decreases with age; so take into account if the prospect is a 21 year old black belt with tattoos, or a 56 year old banker :-)
In any event, talk it through and enjoy. Pick wisely.
Besides experience in the Dojo I have never had a match\fight outside. To be honest I can’t even remember having a fight at school. I must admit that I am curious about how I would do in a match\fight against an equally match opponent. When I think about such a match\fight the enthusiasm for it builds up.
Is this normal?
The only problem is that I think about the risks of injury and I find the enthusiasm fades. However, its not long before I am thinking about it and it builds up again.
I would really like to hear your thoughts regarding this.
LondonMatch (1)
11/26/2022 9:35 PMIs it normal to wonder how I would do in a match\fight against an equally match opponent?
LondonMatch (1)
11/26/2022 3:16 PMAny more thoughts about this?
Scrapmerchant 1 (150)
11/26/2022 8:40 PM(In reply to this)
Be 100% clear with your opponent what rules/limits you want to fight and do not agree to or do anything you are not comfortable with.
99% of guys on MF are decent people. If you are not happy during a meet say STOP and tell your opponent what you are unhappy about. If things don't improve, end the meet.
Remember, most guys have had past opponents so check out the recommendations and if it makes you feel more secure, ask your prospective opponents' past opponents for their honest opinion on the guy before you meet. If it's practicable you could meet for a coffee / drink in order to set up the 'fight date' which would give you a feel for the guy.
The most important thing is to be safe and have a good time!
gymrat (37)
11/26/2022 10:50 PM(In reply to this)
What he said
privateguy55 (40)
11/26/2022 8:56 PM(In reply to this)
Well said!
gymrat (37)
5/20/2021 6:54 PMSo, fo most of us a baseline rule is "no injuries". If someone's uncomfortable with that, avoid them. In most martial arts there is the concept of the "tap" It is your way of signaling that you submit and want the hold released – BEFORE injury. I am constantly surprise by videos here where the aggressor ignores a tap for a while. bd form, they go on my [shit] list.
In reality most of us want the same thing. Our ability and willingness to take risk and pressure/pain varies, and decreases with age; so take into account if the prospect is a 21 year old black belt with tattoos, or a 56 year old banker :-)
In any event, talk it through and enjoy. Pick wisely.
LondonMatch (1)
5/20/2021 3:34 PMBesides experience in the Dojo I have never had a match\fight outside. To be honest I can’t even remember having a fight at school. I must admit that I am curious about how I would do in a match\fight against an equally match opponent. When I think about such a match\fight the enthusiasm for it builds up.
Is this normal?
The only problem is that I think about the risks of injury and I find the enthusiasm fades. However, its not long before I am thinking about it and it builds up again.
I would really like to hear your thoughts regarding this.